Bench Phenomenon: 7 Phrases That Keep You Waiting
It seems like someone is interested in you – but somehow you're always treading water. It's possible that benching is behind it! That means you're being kept waiting.
You've met someone and you're keeping in touch, maybe flirting, and they're giving you hope that they like you and that it could be more. But if you ask about meeting in person, for example, and want to continue, you'll constantly hear typical phrases like "We'll just see if we can find a way." The bottom line: Your date is just keeping you warm.
This nasty dating scam is known as benching . The English term "bench" translates to "bench"—the phenomenon is meant to express that you're on the (substitute) bench.
Not just an issue when datingWhile this scam is primarily seen during dating, it can also occur among friends or colleagues. There are many different reasons for stringing people along: Perhaps the person is trying to avoid an uncomfortable conversation with you? Or perhaps they're unsure of what they really want.
What helps when benching occurs?If you feel like you're being strung along, a personal conversation about this very feeling would be best. If your counterpart absolutely refuses to engage, the question is whether they even want further contact.
If you can talk in person, you have the chance to explain how the situation is affecting you. Feel free to say directly that it feels like you're sitting on the bench. Be as specific as possible about your hopes for the future.
7 sentences that keep you waitingIf the relationship then changes in a positive direction, that's great. If nothing changes, you can safely consider breaking off contact—especially if you're just at the beginning of your dating phase.
It's best to pay attention to the seven typical phrases that help you recognize the bench phenomenon right from the start. These are phrases that "perpetrators" repeatedly use to stall people. Learn more about these phrases in the video.
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