Feel-good people: 8 signs that someone is really good for you

Over the course of our lives, we've accumulated quite a few acquaintances. Some have been with us since childhood, others we encounter with a new job, some develop into genuine friendships, and others remain superficial. Both are fine. But sometimes there are relationships in our lives that we've had for so long that we no longer question them—and if we do, we're no longer quite sure what they actually give us. On the other hand, from time to time, we meet someone who fills us with so much energy, even though we haven't known them very long.

What I'm trying to say is: The length of a relationship with another person doesn't necessarily reflect its quality. Rather, some relationships are simply good for us, while others leave us feeling drained. Distinguishing between the two isn't easy in everyday life if you don't look closely. But once you become aware of who's really good for you and surround yourself more with those people, you can go through life with much more energy.

8 signs that a person is really good for you 1. You lean back

Pay attention to your posture when you're around someone. It often subconsciously says a lot about how we feel. Are you sitting upright or leaning back? Are your shoulders tense or relaxed? Our bodies can relax more easily with some people than with others—they're good for us.

2. You don't have to perform

And so we can sit back and relax, we need security. The truly good relationships in our lives are those in which we don't feel pressure to perform, but know that we can simply be who we are. And when we're tired, we're liked even when we're tired. No forced smiles, no hidden yawns.

3. You don’t need an entertainment program

There's nothing like a good evening on the couch. With a glass of wine and long conversations—or even just hot chocolate and a few movies. With some people, we can just as easily be silent; we don't need any entertainment, we can just "be" together, and we feel better.

4. You dare to speak your darkest thoughts – and they do too

The give-and-take in relationships also applies to what you reveal about yourself. And when one person starts to open up, the other usually does too. Incidentally, even an honest answer to the question "How are you?" can be a door-opener. With the right people, you don't have to fear being judged.

5. You ask for

It sounds banal, but it's often overlooked these days: people who are genuinely interested in you ask questions. They remember the things that are important to you and want to know what's going on in your life.

6. Your limits are accepted

Are you stressed right now—or not, but just don't have the time? You can simply tell the right person, whether in a friendship or a relationship. And they'll understand. If someone almost never makes you feel guilty, they probably accept your boundaries—and you'll never have to justify anything.

7. Nothing changes between you

A friend is moving abroad. You haven't seen another in months, even though you live in the same city. Simply because life got in the way. With true friendships, you realize that it's not quantity, but quality that sustains the relationship. The best feeling about it: that nothing changes between you, even though you're constantly evolving – and supporting each other in the process.

8. "You are fully charged!"

With the right people, everything feels so easy! Actually, even a little self-examination after meeting someone will tell us whether that person is good for us: When we don't feel drained, but rather completely recharged and loved. And because this feeling is so wonderful, we resolve to dedicate more time in our lives to the people who evoke it in us.

mjd Brigitte

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